by Toshi

This is one entry in a practitioner's ongoing commentary on the Dhammapada, posted to soc.religion.eastern in 2006. Chapter 12 — "Self" — draws Toshi toward a central paradox: we judge others quickly but ourselves slowly, and the very qualities that make cruelty possible are the same ones that make compassion possible. The post closes with gentle practical counsel on making space for self-examination in an ordinary day.

Chapter 12 of the Dhammapada centers on a single imperative: be vigilant about yourself and your own actions. We are quick to judge others but very slow to judge ourselves.

We should examine ourselves and our actions first. Once we have a solid foundation within ourselves, we can set a good example for others.

True compassion comes from understanding the weaknesses within all of us. Once we have strength within ourselves, this wisdom can assist others through compassion and understanding.

Strangely enough, the line between compassion and cruelty is very thin. When we understand ourselves — our weaknesses and our strengths — we can see the same characteristics in others, since we recognize them in ourselves. This means that on one side, we can see the weakness and leverage it for our own gain; but on the other hand, we could help and strengthen the individual, since we understand the weakness and can act compassionately.

What we do not realize, however, is how reflexive some of our behaviours are. I was shown this fact when I was younger through my relationship with my siblings, with whom I would somehow manage to say the most damaging things at the wrong time. Of course I love them all deeply, but somehow my ill-timed words reached a point where I had to shake my head in disbelief at the almost comical nature of the situation. This experience helped me to realize that I need to be much more aware of myself and my actions.

How can we develop this awareness? By keeping a closer eye on our actions and thoughts throughout the day. Being more aware of our actions, we learn to be aware of each moment and to act with understanding rather than habitual response.

Perhaps one of the simplest places to start is the commute — the way to work or school. How do we interact with others on the way? Are we constantly impatient, getting angry at our fellow people? Can we enjoy the journey and appreciate our surroundings? Can we spend a few moments thinking about what we have to appreciate? Every once in a while, shut off the music and the radio. Go to work with yourself and reflect upon your Self.

A second point to consider is what we do after work. So much of our time is spent having others think for us — television, the web, video games. Take one night and shut the computer and TV off. Be with yourself and with friends and family. Have some mindful conversation. Make time every day to reflect and meditate.

Colophon

Commentary by Toshi ([email protected]). Posted to soc.religion.eastern, 24 May 2006. Message-ID: <[email protected]>. Part of an ongoing series of Dhammapada commentaries.

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